THE HEART OF MASCULINITY
By Doug Ponder on Jan. 10, 2018
The heart of masculinity is the joyful acceptance of sacrificial responsibility. But that statement is as dense as a North Jersey smog, so we need to consider each part carefully.
First, masculine and male are not the same word, and they don't have the same meaning. All men are ma...
AM I A BAD PARENT?
By Doug Ponder on Jan. 3, 2018
As a parent and a pastor, I’m concerned about the rise of parenting books and blogs that only further confuse, frustrate, and complicate things. “Mommy wars,” “the bottle battle,” and the ever present debates about homeschooling and discipline come to mind. So...
THE ART OF SELF SABOTAGE
By Doug Ponder on Dec. 27, 2017
How I Self-Sabotaged My Plan to Lose Weight
I gained nearly 50 pounds in my last year of college. After months of coping with tiredness, depression, and a wardrobe of clothes that used to fit, I decided that I needed to drop the extra weight. I began running a mile several times a week with a close friend. Each w...
MORE THAN HEAVEN AND FORGIVENESS
By Doug Ponder on Dec. 20, 2017
Bumper Sticker Theology
You’ve seen the bumper sticker before. “Christians aren’t perfect. Just forgiven.” Just forgiven? Is that the only difference between someone who follows Jesus and someone who doesn’t? Many think so. For decades we have been telling others that they ...
FREEDOM IN, BUT NOT FREEDOM FROM
By Jessica Ponder on Dec. 13, 2017
How I Found 'Freedom In, Not Freedom From'
It’s rare that you read poignant words on Facebook. My friend Lauren penned this in a status update: “Why is freedom so easily associated with ‘freedom from’ everything? To be truly free is ‘freedom in’.” That was three y...
THE LONG VIEW OF THINGS
By Doug Ponder on Nov. 29, 2017
The Charcoal Grill vs. The Microwave
Slow and steady wins the race.
Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Patience is a virtue.
Yet we don’t believe any of that, not in our world of microwaves, smart phones, Netflix, and free two-day shipping with Amazon Prime. Almost everything we want is “instant&r...